Wasters. Takers. Incubators.
It is the noted motivational speaker and author, Jim Rohn, who suggests, "You are the average of the 5 people closest to your Life". In other words, your possibilities are inextricably tied to your partnerships. This observation becomes very poignant when you consider that clinical psychologists suggest that 1 in 5 people suffer from mental illness, some mild and some severe; Which leads you to an intense evaluation of your inner circle to make sure that your "Fave 5" does not consist of those who are considered to be "1 in 5".
In conversations with 21st Leaders, I am often asked the question,"How much of myself should I give to those closest to my Life?" My response, "Before you determine what you give of yourself, you must evaluate to whom you give the best of yourself;Your insights, your ideas, your innovation." Also, it's equally important to evaluate how you engage and respond to those who provide insight and inspiration your life.
I would like for you to give careful and conscientious consideration to the postulate that those who are closest to your Life, should have the capacity to "carry" the most for your Life, and have the character to respond positively to being catalyzed by your Life.
I would like for you to give careful and conscientious consideration to the postulate that those who are closest to your Life, should have the capacity to "carry" the most for your Life, and have the character to respond positively to being catalyzed by your Life.
Whenever you are engaging a process intended for edification, education, and empowerment, whether as a "Giver" or "Receiver", consider these 3 Character types:
"WASTERS"
A "Waster" is someone who only desires information from you, because it allows them to feel validated by you, though they never intend to accomplish anything or serve a greater good with the insight they receive. It is simply a sense of entitlement, that perhaps, because of past accomplishments or a personal relationship with you, they deserve to be validated or affirmed by access to new ideas from you, without any responsibility of implementation.
"TAKERS"
A "Taker" is someone who is very intentional and deliberate in their quest for new ideas and information, but they show no accountability to the process. They simply come to take from your life, but offer no appreciation for the wisdom and knowledge that you so freely make available from your life. I consider the "Taker" to be the most insidious of the three Character types, because under the guise of loyalty and dedication, they seek to take what they often have no capacity to execute or discipline to develop. A "Taker" simply wants what you have, with no desire to be cultivated by what you have generously shared.
"INCUBATORS"
An "Incubator" is someone who personifies the sterling attributes of consciousness, capacity, and commitment that cultivates the fertile soil of the soul through a nurturing process of positive engagement that will yield growth and productivity. An "incubator" not only recognizes the worth of the information and ideas to which they are exposed, but they also make themselves accountable to the Leader who has facilitated the transfer of insight and ideas for transformation.
1. CONSCIOUSNESS - Awareness of the value of the insight and information that has been shared with you, and how significant it is to your Life.
2. CAPACITY - Agreement and Alignment with what has been shared with you, through a cognitive commitment, that will lead to a point of definitive decision regarding your development for your Destiny.
3. COMMITMENT - Assimilation of your Identity into the insights and ideas that have been shared with you, by making yourself accountable to the process and responsible for the results that will cause your Life to advance.
So, now that you understand the Character types, the questions must be answered, "Which are You?" & "Who do You have around You?"
written by Ricky Allmon
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